Monday, April 4, 2011

Middle Child Syndrome

So I feel that I have been totally suffering from middle child syndrome. I used to be teased as a kid by my siblings that I was left on the doorstep by a woman in army boots. I guess that triggered my insecurities that would continue into adulthood. Just yesterday I whined to my mom that if I didn't call my parents or siblings, I would never hear from them. It's true. I reach out to them more than they do to me. I always get the same excuses that they're just so busy. LAME. I'm busy. I have things to do. Just because I don't have children or a husband doesn't mean I don't have things to do. I manage 50+ people and run a multi-million dollar business. On a side note, sometimes I don't feel like my parents or siblings take me seriously because Im not married or have children. I don't get the attention they get from my parents. You would think a little more effort would be given to the kid/sibling that doesnt have anyone to spoil her...

I know what you're thinking. Somebody call the wambulance!! Hopefully this feeling will go away....and soon. It just makes me a little sad. Sorry for the downer post. I promise the next one will be way more positive.

5 comments:

elizabeth said...

Awww. Katie. I'm sorry. I was told I was an accident by Ben. And the sad thing was, it was true. I think you need to go out to lunch with me...soon.

Amanda said...

Sad... but you know I love you!! When are we going to reschedule??

Rae said...

Hey girl, I know I totally owe you a phone call. I'm sure you've realized what a terrible call returner I've become. I'm sorry!

Let me just tell you, I'm not a middle child but I totally understand.

As far as calling your siblings goes, I think the big difference between people who are married and people who are single is, the marrieds get their fulfillment of family from their own spouses/kids. I'm not saying that necessarily should make you feel better, but I think it's just a natural thing. My mom frequently tells me I call her so much more than my other siblings. I remind her a big difference is they are all married and I'm not. Yes, I'm busy, however, at the end of the day I'm single and not interacting with a spouse. I don't know if that makes sense or not, hopefully it does.

Also, I totally get feeling like you're not as "important" because you're single. This is a CONSTANT issue in my family because I feel like I will not be considered an adult until I'm married. For example, over Thanksgiving dinner my dad brought up the idea of having a beach house/reunion for our immediate family and wanted to know what it would take for it to be successful and something everyone wants to come to. I knew exactly where this was going to go. Someone asked what the sleeping conditions would be, and then my dad mentioned that we for sure would have something with four bedrooms. Yup. A room for each of my three siblings and their families, a room for my parents and........oh wait....that's all four rooms. I'd either be crashing on the floor with my parents, or on some random couch. I mean, I didn't want to be the brat who's like, "I don't care that you're offering to take us on vacation! It's not good enough!" But it does hurt my feelings that I am not considered an adult until I have a significant other, even though I'm pushing 30.
I'm sure anyone else who's married will say I'm a total brat and I should get over it and just be grateful, which I sort of agree with, but there has to be some sort of happy medium. I feel like my feelings are valid. My parents do their best but they definitely cater to my siblings who are married.

Anyway, this was super long and probably should be sent in an email.

Let's chat soon. Sorry I lag....

Kate Kreider said...

Elizabeth: I can't wait for Tuesday!! Love you!

Amanda: What does your schedule look like for next week? I think I may close on Friday so we could do nails and lunch...just let me know! Love you!

Rae: I'm glad that you feel my pain. I hate that I feel this way from time to time. I should be grateful that I have all of my family members. I guess that's just me being human. I really do love my family. Thanks for your comment and sympathizing with me. Love you and we need to catch up for real!!

Erin said...

Middle children, unite!! ;o). Love you Kiiks!!